Sunday, November 24, 2013

Donner Les Bases du Goût: Adventures in Baby-Led Weaning


Donner Les Bases du Goût : providing the foundation of taste

As one embarks on the adventure of parenthood, there are endless choices for child-rearing methodologies from day one.  Will you breastfeed? If so, will you nurse on demand or on a schedule? Will you co-sleep or use the crib? If a crib, will it be in your room or a nursery? Will you use child-care or stay home? If child care, will you use a day-care center or nanny?  And those are just decisions you have to make in the first couple of months.

One decision we faced in the past few months was how to introduce Tess to table food. 

Many people may wonder what decision is there to make in introducing solid food: rice cereal then eventually jars of pureed baby food, right?

In this age of “über-parenting,” nothing is so straightforward.

First, there is the issue of when to start feeding your baby something other than breastmilk or formula. A comprehensive review published in 2001 highlighted the critical developmental changes that occur between 4 and 6 months that enable more efficient digestion of whole foods. These findings prompted the World Health Organization and the American Academy of Pediatrics to recommend delaying the introduction of solid foods until 6 months. This conclusion has been confirmed by further studies and is fairly widely accepted in the medical community.

We personally made the choice to delay introduction of solid foods until Tess was 8 months old. It was difficult, for sure, to nurse and produce enough milk to supply her caloric need until that age, but for me it was worth it. My choice was based primarily on research suggesting that early introduction of solid foods can lead to long-term consequences for gut and brain development. I wrote about that here.

Other research suggests that extending the breastfeeding period itself is correlated with lower levels of obesity later in life.  A commonly held belief states that this may be because nursing infants control their milk intake and thereby learn to self-regulate when feeding1, 2.

In addition, breastfed infants typically gain weight more slowly in infancy, which is associated with lower levels of obesity later in life3, 4. Finally, there are molecules in breastmilk such as leptin and adiponectin that are thought to help establish proper endocrine responses to feeding and appetite regulation5. One study even showed that each additional month a mother breastfeeds decreases the child's risk of obesity in later life by 4%6.

Delaying the introduction of solids is similarly beneficial in preventing development of obesity.

In a study of nearly 700 children up to 7 years old in Dundee Scotland, introduction of solid foods prior to 15 weeks was associated with increased body fat later in childhood7. In another study that examined over 10,000 subjects from across the globe (Brazil, Guatemala, India, Philippines and South Africa) delayed introduction of solid foods was linked to lower body fat into adulthood8. These studies controlled for things like income, education level, maternal BMI – anything that could affect infant outcomes.

Shorter durations of breastfeeding and earlier introduction of solid food are associated with greater weight gain by 1 year of age, according to a study of Danish babies9. In a study of infants and children in the UK, early introduction of solid foods and early cessation of breastfeeding are both risk factors for obesity in 3-year old children10.

There are some studies that do not corroborate these findings, but studying these measures and behaviors in humans can be difficult due to ethical restrictions and problems with memory retrieval when reporting on feeding behaviors. Animal studies, on the other hand, provide the ability for researchers to control variables not feasible in human studies.

A study on marmoset monkeys showed that infant monkeys who initiated an earlier weaning period were prone to developing obesity later in life. These monkeys were not larger at birth, at the beginning or even later during the weaning period. The development of obesity happened well into adolescence, so the authors of this study do not believe the development of obesity is driven by nutritional status11. 

BABY-LED WEANING


BLW POWER!

Once I worked out when to feed Tess solid food, I had to decide how and what to feed her. We decided to give baby-led weaning (BLW) a try.  We have been following this method for the last 3 months and we couldn’t be happier with it.

Baby-led weaning, I think, is a bit of a mis-nomer. Really, I don’t even know if what we’re doing is deserving of a name.


It is easier to say what BLW isn't:
It isn't spoon feeding.
Since we don't do spoon-feeding,
when I actually TRY to give her something like soup on a spoon
she gives me this blank stare.
"What is this voodoo, mom?"

BLW is really quite simple. The theory is that once a baby’s GI system is capable of breaking down and digesting food, they will have developed the skills necessary to feed themselves: to sit unassisted, to pick food up, place it in their mouth, mash it up and swallow it. If a baby cannot self-feed, they are not ready. Readiness is thought to occur somewhere around 6 months old12.

Perceived hunger or refusal to night-wean are often given as reasons for introducing solid foods, but these are not accepted as true signs of “readiness” by the medical community.



Tess' very first taste of food!
Wasn't convinced.

Glad she gave it another go.

BENEFITS TO BLW

Delayed introduction of solids is actually the first benefit to baby-led weaning.  From all the research I have mentioned above and in my other blog post, this is hugely beneficial to a baby’s body and brain development. In one of the few studies to date on BLW, 55% of mothers who used this method waited until at least 26 weeks to introduce complementary foods13. This is far later than parents who use traditional spoon-feeding typically choose to begin solids according to many epidemiological studies.




First raspberries!
Looks like something out of a horror movie...

One study in the UK showed that BMI scores were lower in baby-led weaned babies and spoon-fed babies showed above average BMIs. There was an increased incidence of obesity in the spoon-fed group even when controlling for socioeconomic status and breastfeeding duration.14 It is likely that, as with breastfeeding, self-feeding with finger foods teaches self-regulation of food intake, which is important for maintaining a healthy weight throughout life15.


Of course, it's not all healthy all the time.
Sometimes we are naughty and eat graham crackers!

Mr. Fenway was hoping to steal one I think.


Some studies suggest that obese children tend to eat at a faster rate and take bigger bites16, 17.  BLW also helps prevent against learning to eat too fast.  I only put one piece of food in front of Tess at a time and she can only eat so fast since she has to mash up the food with her gums and tongue. Meal times are very slow, sometimes it takes us an hour to eat lunch, but I hope this is teaching her good habits right from the very beginning.

BLW has also encouraged us to wean very slowly. Tess was only eating once a day for the first 6 or 7 weeks, then twice a day, and only in the last couple of weeks have we transitioned to 3 meals a day. She is 11 months as of 10 days ago. It took us 3 months to get to 3 meals a day. I still nurse her 5 or sometimes 6 times a day, as well. Slowly weaning is also associated with healthier weight later in life.


Tess LOVES plums,
and is sad they are now out of season.

BLW is great for development of motor skills like a pincer grasp. In baby-led weaning, foods are offered in their whole rather than pureed form18.  Foods such as boiled carrots, sweet potato, and banana are great first foods.  Tess has loved avocado and mango as well. Anything that can be cut up into “fist-sized” chunks is great at the very beginning when they do not have the dexterity to pick up anything finely-diced. With little time, though, Tess was able to get the hang of Cheerios, chickpeas and black beans.

BLW also allows us to eat as a family.  It conveys the idea that meals are meant to be shared, to encourage a sense of community and coming together.  From the beginning of her introduction to food, we don’t have an arrangement where one parent spoon-feeds the baby while the other parent gobbles down some food so they can switch half-way through the meal.  We are able to sit together and each of us feeds ourselves.


Sometimes we also like to eat lunch in front of the TV.
Red Sox parade time!

We also get to eat the same things, for the most part, at least. It’s important that the foods a baby eats are low in salt, and sometimes I have to scoop out some food for Tess before adding the salt that Andy and I are accustomed to in our food. But for the most part, we have a similar diet.

It’s also important to encourage food diversity so the baby has a balanced diet. Because babies are not limited to bland rice cereals and overly sugary processed jars of pureed baby food, they gain familiarity with many different fresh fruits, vegetables and more exotic flavors. Tess even loves curry.  


First curry!

Another study on baby-led weaning showed that when compared to spoon-fed babies, starches and proteins were the most well liked food categories among BLW babies. Whereas sugary or sweet foods were most enjoyed by spoon-fed babies. Furthermore, the baby-led group preferred all food groups except sweet foods compared to the spoon-fed group14. I think Tess is also more adventurous in what she eats because it is exciting for her to have control over her meals.


This was a pretty typical meal, but Tess tried okra for the first time.
She wasn't a fan.

Finally, one study even suggests BLW is good for Mom and Dad’s diet too. One study showed that three months after beginning BLW, calorie consumption by parents decreased, particularly their consumption of sugar. Sugar was only 17% of total calories in this particular cohort19.

I don’t monitor my calorie intake, but personally, since beginning BLW with Tess 3 months ago, I have lost 15 pounds without consciously trying. Is it from BLW? I have no idea, but I do know that I have struggled with my weight my entire life - 15 pounds hasn’t ever just dropped off me. I once did Weight Watchers for 6 months and only lost 8. I even went to see my doctor after I lost the first 10 pounds because I thought I had cancer or a parasite or something! I am happy to report, however, that I am perfectly healthy. She suggested that the weight loss is from chasing around an active almost-toddler and burning extra calories. I’m skeptical though. I once trained for a marathon and didn’t lose any weight.


Papaya!
She ate an entire papaya in about 4 days.
There were a lot of diapers that week...

DRAWBACKS

Of course, like most things, nothing is perfect.  As much as I am absolutely convinced BLW is the best practice for us, it has been difficult at times. For example, the mess. When Tess was first learning to eat … she would nearly require a bath after eating, I would literally hose down her high chair outside, and I think the dogs ended up eating more than she did for all that would drop on the floor. It was very exhausting. Avocado also stains like the dickens so I have emptied almost an entire bottle of stain remover while trying to keep her clothes clean the past 3 months. She often eats in a diaper (which, because we use cloth, also gets stained!)


Messy Tessie!

It is awkward to go to a restaurant or someone’s house and get food everywhere. You quickly learn to identify foods that are less messy, Cheerios are great for eating in public.





Mango at the Marlay House.




Pizza crust in Napa, CA.




Avocado in San Francisco.
Avocado with a white shirt in public.
I was playing with fire this day...

It does improve, however. With time, their dexterity improves and they learn to get (almost) all their food in their mouths.


Sometimes she just likes to share with the dogs.

Another fear in BLW is choking. I was personally a little paranoid about choking, but I just have to keep a close eye on her while she eats.  One study showed that 94% of BLW mothers never experienced a choking incident14, so this actually shouldn’t be a great concern.

I personally had one experience with choking that was pretty scary. I made stuffed green bell peppers and topped them with some cheese that got pretty hard while in the oven.  Tess couldn’t break down the cheese with her gums so she swallowed a piece that was a bit too big, we scooped her up and Andy did one back blow before it came flying out. In the last 3 months that was our only real near-choking incident and it was my fault, I gave her something without checking to see if it was something she could chew with her gums.


These were the peppers.
Cheese was a bit too toasty and not melty!

Another concern in BLW is whether the nutritional needs of a baby are met as they are choosing their own foods. You can’t force them to eat anything, obviously (although, you can’t necessarily force a spoon-fed baby to eat anything, either).

I found a fascinating study from 1939 by a pediatrician, Clara Davis, that addresses this20. In this study, children were studied from weaning until 6 years of age. They were presented with 33 different food items at mealtimes and were allowed to choose everything they ate without encouragement or intervention, from weaning onward. All foods were in their “pure form,” nothing like custard or pasta that contain various foods in combination (milk and eggs or flour and eggs, etc).

The study showed that all of the babies and children, while sometimes choosing seemingly odd meals (like orange juice and liver for breakfast), fully satisfied all their nutritional needs. In the early days, they tried many different foods, but with time slowly developed taste preferences. While all the children in the study had vastly different diets and taste preferences, as Davis writes in the paper, “They achieved the goal [of nutritional fulfillment] but by widely various means, as Heaven may presumably be reached by different roads.” How very poetic!


Another meal:
Kale, sweet potato, chickpeas and brisket 
(slow cooked in a crock pot, nice and tender and easy to eat!)
Meat is still relatively new to her, 
still trying out things that she can breakdown with her gums.

Even the babies that entered the study with severe rickets recovered completely. For those infants, they gave them the additional choice of cod liver oil.  Astoundingly, those babies did occasionally choose to eat cod liver oil and only until their blood calcium and phosphorous levels were normal and their bones healed according to x-rays! After they were cured of rickets, they never again took the cod liver oil.

The author concluded that there exists an innate, automatic mechanism in the human body that motivates us to balance the dozens of nutritional essentials we require to function.

Another example of this was that the babies only preferred to eat beets in the first year of life, unless they were suffering from acute glandular fever. During those periods, they again suddenly chose to eat beets again, as if they knew the beets contained essential nutrients they needed to fight their illness. 


Her enjoyment of different foods waxes and wanes.
Sometimes she likes something, other times she doesn't.
Avocado is the one thing I know she will always eat.

The exception she found to this existed when one’s diet consists of primarily sugar and white flour. The paper reads “Self-selection [of food] can have no, or but doubtful, value if the diet must be selected from inferior foods.”  Davis describes the “nutritional evils” in the “modern diet” (in 1939), and suggests that sugar and white flour lead to “fallibilities of appetite” and a desire to eat these foods to excess and ignore the body’s innate sense of what it needs. She even claims that the widespread excess of sugar in “civilized diets” of the time was decried by nutritional authorities. In 1939. What would they possibly think of TODAY’S modern diet?!

I am sure this study is hugely flawed in many ways (methods are not supplied, how were they able to control each child’s meal for up to 6 years, were they in an orphanage? These details are not provided). I still think it is important to recognize that, to a certain extent, humans likely have some innate mechanisms to motivate us to properly provide for our nutritional needs. It’s evolution. Early man somehow existed without processed, fortified food and vitamin supplements.

DISCLAIMER

Of course, for any parent the questions of how, what and when to feed your baby are important. For me, these decisions have been particularly significant.  Not only is food a big part of my life – I love cooking, trying new foods and I believe that meal times serve as a cultural experience, but also because obesity has plagued my family for some time.  Everyone in my family struggles with their weight, including myself, there have been some family members who have even undergone weight loss surgery. Not all have been successful.  If there is anything I can do at this stage of Tess’ life to ensure she may be free of those same struggles I will certainly try it.


 Baby's first kale!
I don't think I had heard of kale until I was well into my twenties.

For some families, baby-led weaning isn’t possible. Maybe your baby is in day care where they may not be supportive. Maybe you fear nothing more than the idea of your baby choking and you would be panic-stricken during meal times.  In these cases, you shouldn’t do BLW despite the research showing any benefits, and most of all should not feel guilty for it! 


We are not completely militant about food here.
We went to a fair and let her have her first taste of ice cream.
After one bite she developed a vice-like grip on that spoon.
She LOVED it!

For example, I have a completely irrational fear of SIDS.  It was truly my biggest fear despite the fact that the chances were so infinitesimally small.  Despite a lot of research showing the benefits of “co-sleeping” (baby sleeping in bed with mom and dad), I was too paranoid for it. I would have never slept and I would be miserable.


Sometimes she doesn't like something and I can't understand why.
She is not a fan of oranges!
Oranges are so good!
Not interested though. Maybe too acidic?

Do I feel guilt that I may have deprived Tess of the developmental benefits of co-sleeping? Absolutely not! It was my choice and I feel comfortable in that choice, just as any mother or father should do if they decide to spoon-feed.

This post is only meant to educate anyone who has not made a decision and is curious about this particular method.

I personally think baby-led weaning is great.  I love watching Tess feed herself – I get a kick out of watching her enjoy her food. I am convinced by the benefits shown in the research and am hopeful it will help develop her palate so she is an adventurous eater. Nothing would make me happier than Tess loving sushi and hating chicken nuggets!  I’m sure that is impossible, but a girl can dream, can’t she?


She wasn't feeling the chickpeas this day. 
We tried mixing them in with Cheerios to fool her.
Didn't work.


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Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Dr. GoldiBlox?

There is a relatively new toy out for girls called GoldiBlox. Nearly everyone I know on Facebook has shared the ad, and I’m sure many of you have seen it (If not, you can see it here: Goldiblox).

The toys definitely look fun, and played against the backdrop of a Beastie Boys song, seem like the coolest new toy to get down with.  They are a bit advanced for Tess right now, but for a second during the ad I thought “Oh, I’m definitely getting these for her in a couple of years.”

They end the ad with the tagline: “Toys for future engineers.”

“In that case,” I thought… “she won’t be getting them.”

Since Mom and Dad are both scientists, this reaction probably surprises you.

But the honest to God truth is… the last thing I want for Tess is a career in science – engineering, biology, chemistry, whatever.  Not happening.

Why?

Because the world of science is incredibly sexist and I don’t see that changing any time soon.

I had the most incredible college experience at Smith. I lived in this perfect bubble where sexism didn’t exist.  “Why do we need the feminist movement?” I sometimes pondered, “It’s over and we won!” 

Then I came to Emory. 
 Even in a graduate program where women outnumbered men 3:1 or so – in the class above me, there was not a single male - sexism was rampant. Despite the female majority in the student body, the professoriate was overwhelmingly male.  Initially, I even chose one of the very few female PIs as my mentor, and it was one of the worst decisions I’ve ever made. Her expectations were unattainable and I honestly think she secretly enjoyed making her students cry.

I often wondered why she was that way.  Many of my colleagues who had female mentors in graduate school had very similar experiences.  I think that to compete in the world of academic science, a woman has to become a tyrant. 

The rest of us don’t bother fighting the battle and we leave. We just want to live a life that makes us happy and not necessarily be an activist everyday. That’s why men outnumber women in tenure track positions 3:1, 4:1 or worse depending on the field.

Of course, I realize I’m generalizing – there are, I’m sure (I hope…) plenty of female scientists who are perfectly sane. It is just a rare, exceptionally strong female who can climb to the top of their scientific field.  I think that process damages a lot of women.  Either that or you have to be kind of crazy to begin with.

I have recently decided to leave laboratory science forever. I still love science, but I will not be pursuing a career at the bench.  I made this choice because frankly, I just don’t enjoy it. Experiments make me miserable and there are about 10,000 other things I would rather do with my time than do another single patch experiment.

However, even if I loved science, it would have been nearly impossible to succeed as an academic because I am a woman. 

During my time as both a student and postdoc, I have encountered enormous sexism.  My male counterparts were supported in ways I never was.  I never so much as had anyone else make a solution, culture cells or even take care of my mouse breeding for me. Whereas, some of my male colleagues had a whole team of undergrads or technicians doing their “grunt work.”  In fact, a huge chunk of my time as a grad student was spent supporting OTHERS’ projects. I have been overlooked at meetings, left out of networking/socializing opportunities that male colleagues were welcomed into with open-arms. I had been told that I would never get offered a job until I was done having children because no one would want to support my maternity leave. When I first had Tess, I even had a male colleague tell me I couldn’t trust my instincts because of my hormones. 

I could give you a laundry list of stories like this from just my personal experiences. I could fill a book, but I won't dwell on it here. Do I think it was all malicious? No! In fact, I think a lot of the males I had these encounters with would consider themselves to be supportive of women. Maybe even feminists.  But even science has proven that academic scientists are biased against women. Despite their best intentions, male and female science faculty have pre-existing views that males are more competent and hireable than females with the same exact qualifications.

Maybe you could say it was my fault, I should have spoken up for myself more.  Demanded support. Inserted myself into networking opportunities uninvited.  Told people it was inappropriate to talk about my womb or the hormones in it as it related to work.

Perhaps. However, when I first got to Emory, I did a lot of speaking up for myself. You can take the girl out of Smith but not the Smith out of the girl, I suppose.

I found it did me no favors. Pretty quickly I earned myself the reputation of “trouble maker” in the neuroscience graduate program and it only made my life more difficult.  In my last lab, I simply started doing as I was told with a smile on my face and it made the process of graduating much smoother.  

I’ve seen plenty of men fight for their causes, however, and get nothing but rewarded for it. You have no publications? Your thesis is 100 pages long? Well, you’ve fought your case heartily enough, soo…. here’s your PhD. Congratulations, Doctor! I just played by a different set of rules, apparently.

In so many ways, I am not the person I was when I moved to Atlanta. And not only because I am no longer 22.  Science and Emory have kicked the crap out of me. I was confident, ambitious and strong when I arrived here with a shiny new Smith College diploma in my hands. My experiences over the past almost-decade have frankly sucked that out of me.

I do not want that for Tess.

OK I'll probably still favor the idea of blocks over Barbies for Tess. These types of toys help train the brain to work in ways that are important for the development of all kinds of skills. (My favorite toy growing up was Barbie, btw). "Toys for future engineers" is just a marketing ploy, but it did give me something to think about.

Obviously, I believe there should be women out there fighting the fight, demanding equality, and changing the game! Damn right! But you know what? That shit is hard. I don’t want to be the one on the front lines of that war. And unless Tess is far tougher and more pig-headed than me, I don’t think I want that for her either.

Do I think women should simply give up and relinquish themselves to the kitchen?

No, of course not.

Do I think that science is the only game there is where women experience sexism?

Obviously not.

But do I sometimes feel like I devoted the last decade of my life to pursuing a career in which I was doomed for failure?   

You bet your ass I do! I question my existence every day! What degree did I fight so hard for? What am I doing with it?  What is next for me? I might not want to be an academic but I absolutely want a professional career for myself.

I just wish I didn’t start a race with my leg tied to the fence post behind me without even realizing it.

These are our favorite toys of Tess':

Have you ever seen these blocks?
They are incredible!

They are perfectly straight and balanced 
and you can build anything with them.

Tess mostly likes to destroy things Andy or I build at this point.

Going...

Going...

Gone.

Or wait, no....

Still more to destroy!

DESTRUCTO STRIKES AGAIN!

Good for eating, too.

Saturday, November 2, 2013

Party Like It’s 1918

Ten years ago I was still licking the wounds from the Red Sox-Yankees ALCS fiasco of 2003.  I had watched Grady Little leave Pedro on the mound for one inning too many on a microscopic 13-inch television crammed into my little Smith College dorm room with a dozen or so housemates.  My dreams of a Sox World Series win my senior year of college crushed like the ball hit over the monster by an unlikely hero named Aaron Boone. 

Aaron Fucking Boone.

I finally understood the Curse of the Bambino. I wasn’t around for 1967, 1975, or Bucky Dent and was only 4 years old for Buckner. My Mom is the biggest sox fan I know – she keeps score during every game while watching the game on NESN. (For years it was while listening to the game on the radio). She made sure I heard the stories, knew the lore, I couldn’t have escaped my childhood without knowing. But I hadn’t felt the raw searing pain of the curse first hand until that night in October in 2003.

This is my mom and me on my first day of kindergarden.
She's wearing a 1986 ALCS Champions t-shirt.
She still has it, though it's more holes than shirt these days.

Mom pulled out this old ticket stub from a game she went to in 1981.
$6.25
Damn

Here is my ticket for last Wednesday's game.

What I would have thought if in November of 2003 you had told me then that within the next decade the Sox would not only win 3 World Series Championships, but that one of those would be clinched at home and I would be there for it…

Side note: less than a month after the 2003 ALCS I would meet a loyal Cubbie named Andy Jenkins who was simultaneously trying to recover from the Curse of the Billy Goat and the infamous foul-ball fan. It didn’t take me long to fully convert him from a long-suffering Cubs fan into a Sox fan.

It isn’t often in life one can say they witnessed history, but last Wednesday night I literally witnessed sports history. After winning 2 World Series on the road, the Sox finally did it at home, at beloved Fenway Park for the first time since Babe Ruth still wore a Red Sox uniform.

Historic.

I wrote in my last blog about my experience at Game 6 of the ALCS, how our friend with MLB connections got us tickets, how we turned down Game 1 of the World Series, realized how stupid that was and jumped at the offer to attend Game 6.  We burned some airmiles, flew from Atlanta back up north Tuesday night, and left Tess with my Mom Wednesday afternoon when we left Western Mass for Boston.

Shipping up to Boston!
We went to Massachusetts in late September.
Then again for the ALCS on October 19.
And again for the World Series. 
We also went to San Francisco and 
Andy went to New York for a night in between those trips.
Needless to say, we would rather not see another airport any time soon,
but Tess is getting great at flying.


On the road, heading east!

That ALCS game was anxiety-riddled and exhilarating.  There was certainly a tension in the air. Maybe it was because for 6 innings it was a close game. Maybe it was because memories of the curse and 2003 still lingered in my subconscious.  Whatever the reason, I wasn’t counting any chickens until the 27th out. Then, when Victorino hit that Grand Salami, tension turned into pure, unadulterated joy.

Game 6 of the World Series was different.  There was no anxiety, no tension – at least for the fans. I’m sure the players would give different reports. But in the stands it was just a big party as soon as we walked in.  

In fact, it was a party even earlier than that.  Andy and I stopped at a rest stop on the pike on our way out to Boston. As I walked out of the ladies room wearing my Sox jersey a couple of women yelled “GO SOX!” and high-fived me. This instigated an entire line of people heading to the bathroom, all wearing sox shirts and hats, to slap my hand while whooping and hollering. 

We saw this guy at dinner.
A priest with a world series ticket.
I think he must have put in a good word...

All of Massachusetts, and likely all of New England were celebrating the day. Everything and everyone was focused on the game and Fenway Park. That morning on the local tv news in Springfield, Mass – a good 2 hours from Boston – the weatherman spent considerable time reporting that the weather at Fenway at 8pm that evening would be 50 degrees, cooling to 45 by the end of 9 innings. He even went so far to say that the wind would be blowing out towards right field. Not that the wind would blow in a southeasterly direction, but towards right field.  He never mentioned what the weather would be in the Pioneer Valley, however.

Every newspaper devoted their front page to the game.  Everyone I saw when I went out for coffee and donuts that morning was wearing sox gear. My Facebook news feed was full of World Series talk, at least from my fellow Massholes.

Meanwhile, apparently the front page of the St. Louis newspaper made no mention of the game.  It was as if they already knew it was over.

The entire city of Boston was electric the night of the game. Everyone was out on the streets.  People were walking towards Fenway in droves. Only a small percentage of whom were ticket holders, most people just wanted to be down in Fenway to be as close to the magic as possible. The line to get into Jillian’s went so far down Lansdown Street I couldn’t see the end.



As we walked toward our seats in the bleachers, everyone was high-fiving and hugging, all strangers who were instant best friends. The crowd knew this game was ours. The trophy might as well have already been engraved, and champagne bottled popped.  All 9 innings felt like a celebration.






People were on their feet from the first pitch to the last. No one sat.

Best fans in all of sport.

The Dropkick Murphys sang the National Anthem and Shipping Up To Boston, again - just like in the ALCS Game 6.   This is what I love about the Sox.  To sing the Star Spangled Banner at the World Series? Could have certainly gone to a bigger name act than the Murphy's, but they rewarded Sox loyalty instead. And Carlton Fisk (wearing a fake beard) and Luis Tiant threw out the first pitch(es) - bona fide Red Sox legends!

Big Papi, without whom the Sox batting average in the series to that point would be a measley .151, would not get a chance to hit.  He was walked 3 times intentionally, once unintentionally, in the midst of chants of “MVP, MVP” from the crowd.  But every little thing was gonna be alright, because the rest of the lineup would step up to the plate in Papi’s place.  



Andy with the man with the tickets.


The sox clinched the American League pennant 
AND the World Series with us in the stands.
The Sox should hire us to be there for all their games!

Victorino came through with another big hit in the 3rd, knocking in 3 RBIs.

Lackey, who has been a major target of the haters since joining the Sox roster, was a beast on the mound. 

"Started from the bottom now the whole team here."




Drew and Ellsbury came out of their hitting slumps.  Drew with a homerun. And Ellsbury got out of a pickle and back to first! When does that ever happen? My mom said she didn't even know how to score that.

Workman and Tazawa put a stop to the Cardinals’ last ditch efforts at a come back, then Koji came in to stick the final knife in the Cardinals’ hopes to tie the series and force a game 7.

Officer Horgan!

My friend Liz from Baldwin House at Smith 
was also at the game so I went over to visit with her and her husband in their seats!
This was their view.
We had to leave quick though because while we were over there Lackey let in a run.
I'm superstitious and had to go back over to my seats.


Koji action shot!

We did it. In our house.  A celebration 95 years in the making.











No words....

After a 93-loss season, finishing in dead last place.  That season having followed one of the most epic September meltdowns in baseball history in 2011. 

There was no better way to honor the city of Boston after the season began in tragedy.




We could see these crowds from the back row of the bleachers looking out over the Pike. 
I think these people were over on Newbury St.


From my nephew Chris who was at the parade.

We went up to the very back row of the bleachers in center field 
to look out over the city after we won.
This was our view of this sign from right underneath.

Leaving Fenway.
The cops had cleared most of the people from the bars in the area by the time we left.
Boylston did not look like this.

It was 1am before we left Fenway, and we were certainly not the last ones there. Not even close. The party was still going strong in fact.  We walked towards Boylston and I’ve never seen so many people.  We tried getting on the T at Hynes, Copley and Arlington. Too many people. We just walked all the way to Park Street since we were just trying to get to the Red Line. Our amazing friend from Smith, Steph, and her soon-to-be-husband Mark were nice enough to let us stay with them in Southie so we could get some sleep before driving back to Western Mass.

The crowd was a little crazy, but honestly considering the sheer number of people in the streets it’s pretty amazing it didn’t get out of control.  It actually made me realize what a special city Boston is.  While walking through a T station, I dropped a glove.  A girl, probably in college, ran clear across the station to give it back to me.  In the midst of what could have been riots breaking out, this girl wanted to make sure I didn’t lose my glove. A young couple walking through the station who saw this couldn’t help but comment on how awesome that was.   “That’s Boston right there,” they said as we all walked by a man in full military regalia waiting for a train next to a bum sleeping on a bench who both threw up a hand in agreement. “Go Boston!”  The sox bring all kinds of people together, bums, soldiers, drunk college students. Everyone was feeling the Boston love that night. Amazing.

What a town. And what a team.


We are already planning a trip to Fort Meyers next Spring.


Last out!
World Series Champs!!!



Sweet Caroline
What a crowd.

From my nephew Chris who was at the Parade.
Big Papi had a lot to celebrate.